[tweetmeme]Have you ever had a bad day? Monday, for me, was one of those of days. I woke up in a foul mood, I found out my health insurance rates were going up, my brother was angry about a few things and was sending me not-so-pleasant text messages throughout the day and I lost my debt card. It was one of those days that was just one thing after the other. Nothing went smoothly.
That evening my partner called to say goodnight and asked an interesting question. He said, “how is it that your bad days are so much better than my bad days”? This is a great question!
It all has to do with a simple shift of thought.
What is it about a bad day that makes it “bad”. Using an example from my Monday, is it really a bad thing to lose your debt card? All it really meant for me, in my case, was a phone call to the bank and a nice conversation with the owner of the store I left it in when she found it the next day. Is that so bad? It all has to do with what I tell myself about what happened. I could tell myself that it’s aweful to have lost my debt card and that now I have to take time out of my busy day to call the bank, cancel my card and get a new one. It’s such a hassel!!! Or, I just tell myself that I need a new card, I had a nice conversation with the woman at the bank and a nice conversation with the owner of the store. No judgement – good or bad. It’s just what happened. If I struggle with what happened, if I struggle against reality, then I will suffer. If I accept it as what happened, with no judgement – good or bad – I don’t suffer. It’s as simple as that.
The same is true for when we find ourselves in a foul mood. That morning when I woke up and was feeling grumpy and aggitated I could have fought against that mood and told myself that “this mood is bad” and “I need to get rid of it as soon as possible” but I didn’t. Instead I observed my mood, noticed it was on the foul side and accepted it. In fact, I enjoyed it. I didn’t fight against it. I didn’t try and push it away. I enjoyed the energy as it was. Would I generally prefer to be in a happy mood, of course, but I am human. Emotions and moods are going to come and go. Why not enjoy them all instead of labeling certain emotions “good” and others “bad”. It felt good on Monday to allow myself to be in a bad mood. I didn’t fight it. I let it be, knowing it wouldn’t last and enjoying it while it was there. Had I tried to push my foul mood away it would have only made me suffer.
This is what my partner was noticing. I accepted the reality of my day and my mood as they were. I didn’t fight them and I didn’t expect anything to be different than it was. That is why my “bad” day looked better than any “bad” day he had ever had.
Next time you find yourself in a foul mood or having a “bad” day try a simple shift of thought and see how it turns out.
Ultimately, it’s how you view your moods and your day that makes the difference but if a shift in thought is not something for you (or even if it is) the Homeopath in me feels pulled to recommend a few remedies for irritability and aggitation. They will not, however, stop any of the day’s events – “good” or “bad”.
Chamomile – Irritability with anger.
Pulsatilla – Irritability with sadness and/or weeping. Changeable moods.
Nux Vomica – Irritability with impatience and intollerance of others.
Sepia – Irritability with a feeling of being overworked. May feel hopeless. Sarcastic.
Ignatia – Irritability from grief or loss. Mood swings.
Calc Phos – Irritability and mood swings caused by stress and the “pressures” of life. Fatigue.